timeI’m going to step up on a soap box for a few hundred words here and offer some editorial on the big headlines of the week.

I am fully behind Babble‘s Love Bomb in response to Time Magazine‘s cover shot with Jamie-Lynne Grumet breastfeeding her 4-year-old and the “Are You Mom Enough?” headline. Still, it’s necessary to look at the tactics being used in the process and how they’re setting things back further than moving them forward.

In a Q&A associated with the attention-grabbing cover shoot, Jamie-Lynne Grumet admitted breastfeeding 3-, 4-, 5-, and 6-year-olds is “not socially normal. The more people see it, the more it’ll become normal in our culture. That’s what I’m hoping. I want people to see it.”

But placing something so shocking on the front page of Time Magazine is not going to underline the acceptance of breastfeeding; it’s merely shining a big, bright spotlight on the belief that this practice is bizarre.

It’s like the flashy gay pride parades — by being shocking and in-your-face, you do more harm than good.

Those who are against the gay lifestyle fear it as predatory, call it immoral, and are disgusted by the blatant sexuality of it. And wouldn’t you know it, Gay Pride Parades are an all-out assault on the senses of ball gags, bare-assed chaps, and pelvic thrusts. Everything the people fear about gay people confirmed in one sunny afternoon parade down Main St. that’s billed as a “family event.”

One of my best friends is gay. My friend and his husband are mostly just like you and me. While they don’t have kids, they have a dog. They both have jobs, they enjoy quiet nights on their patio with a bottle of wine, they go to movies, dinner, and concerts. They have relationship ups and downs, and a mortgage to worry about.

Sure, there are outliers who sleaze around the clubs (no more so than 20-something co-eds on spring break), but most gay people are just like you and me. They love, they laugh, they go to work. They’re not pedophiles. They’re not sex-crazed shoe-tappers in bathroom stalls. They’re normal, regular, middle-of-the-road people who just happen to love someone of the same gender.

A few years back we went to the Gay Pride Parade together to offer support to the community. We haven’t been back since.

If gay people are to be accepted as a regular part of society, confirming the fears of the opposition is not the way to do it.

“I think same-sex couples should be able to get married,” Barack Obama plainly and clearly stated this week. He did it in a sit-down interview, not on stage dressed in drag. He made it seem normal, acceptable, and perfectly reasonable.

What Time Magazine and Jamie Lynn Grumet have done is parade their beliefs on every newsstand in the most extreme way possible. It got people to notice, but they’re not noticing the right thing. Instead of supporting breastfeeding as a perfectly natural, safe, and healthy thing to do, Ms. Grumet chose a shocking presentation of her beliefs.

To be honest, I’m shocked at how breastfeeders feel unaccepted and how they feel the need to have nurse-in flash mobs and protests. To me breastfeeding is a natural way to feed your kids and not some political football that needs to be juggled. I don’t know if a militant and aggressive attitude is what’s going to change people’s minds. Being discreet, doing it when you need to do it, and just being natural about it is the approach to take.

Shocking people with your behavior to get them to talk about you doesn’t make people think you’re normal, or think you’re just like them — it confirms their belief that you’re different. And to some, different is scary.

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  1. Jak July 1, 2012 at 10:29 am

    I think perhaps you are probably right. I never used to have any resentment toward gays…never discriminated against them…always thought that was their right and their business to do as they pleased….and I would do as I pleased…..but now they have an agenda, and it is not enough that one be tolerant and accepting….but now one must actually approve and be seen to approve of their lifestyle….and declare it as good and wholesome and approve of their promiscuous behavior.

    I am tolerant and accepting of heterosexual promiscuity too, but I for one do not see their lifestyle and behavior as good and wholesome, but would find it to be intolerant of them to be shoving it down my throat expecting me to approve. There must be gay people out there who don’t approve of the radical, in your face “gay pride” bunch who demand that everyone approve of their sexual expressions.

    Being tolerant should not be equated with approval be it in religion, gay lifestyle, pot smoking, or drinking, and a hundred other things.

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