[twitter]This is a guest post from Jamie at A Crock Of Schmidt.
The sun is shining, clouds are nearly non-existent, and the temperatures are finally reflecting something other than a cruel joke. It feels like spring and with it the sounds of children playing outdoors.
At last! So today, when I picked up my son from preschool, I was more than happy to let him play with his classmates on the nearby playground. It was a popular sentiment among the other parents as several kids remained for a few minutes of play. Hey, this warm spell could very well be the extent of our spring so enjoy it while you can.
At one point a couple girls from my son’s class stomped away from the playground in mild displeasure with one of the boys. I do not know what happened but I do know this boy and he’s a lively one. Whippersnapper I believe was the favoured term back in the olden days. His mother asked the girls in a voice loud enough that her son could hear, “Was Colobert (not his real name but not made up either; it is Ancient Germanic and means ‘bright helmet’ which is just awesome) not playing nice with you girls?”
The girls shake their heads and she looks up to see the defiant Colobert (helmet radiating in the midday sun … sorry, couldn’t help myself) standing tall and proud at the top of the slide portion of the playground. She then directs her loud question to him directly, “Colobert, are you not playing nicely with the girls?”
No response. And so she asks again but this time before her full inquiry has left her mouth, Colobert retorts rebelliously, “I don’t even care!”
It was brilliant (much like his bright helmet … sorry, again, just so awesome). And all I could think was, “one day, you will. You will.” I felt like Yoda warning Luke that one day he will be afraid.
Then I had a small epiphany. Aha! Here, before me, was an important learning experience for my own son. This, THIS was one of those unique moments where being a stay-at-home dad would genuinely benefit my child should I grasp the opportunity.
Colobert’s actions had me harkening back to a similar experience from my own youth. It was Grade four, grant you, not preschool, so the parallels are perhaps a bit stretched but the lesson remains consistent. In Grade Four Schoneke (not her real name; it is Old German for ‘little beauty’ which isn’t funny like ‘bright helmet’ but works well with the narrative) had taken a liking to me. This was something new and frankly unwanted as far as I was concerned. Having girls maturing sooner than boys is Mother Nature’s ultimate prank on the male gender.
Regardless, at whatever age I was in Grade Four, even the prettiest girl in school chasing me and kissing me was a veritable nightmare. I had to take a stand if I wanted it to stop. And so it was that on a lovely spring day, not unlike today, I found myself straddling my bicycle looking down the four foot high grassy hill into the ditch I’d just pushed Schoneke off her bike into.
It wasn’t my proudest moment. Even then I recall sensing I’d done something I would regret; that I’d crossed a line I was still too naïve to understand. It was much like what Colobert had boastfully done. I had not played nice with the girls. What would I have given to have had my father step in and warn me that I was about to do something that would haunt me for decades. Had I been warned that these kisses I hated so much would be the last kisses I would get from any female I didn’t call mom, grandma, or aunt for the next decade would I have maybe reconsidered my actions and let Schoneke remain untouched at the top of that ditch hill?
So son, always, ALWAYS, play nice with girls. Because there will come a time when you desperately want them to play nice with you and they remember … they all remember.
Jamie Schmidt has been a stay at home dad for 6 years and counting now having left his oil and gas geologist job (wife still has hers). He has a 7 year old daughter and a 4 year old son who love sports, camping, games, and life. He tries to keep up and remain sane.