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Two dads are making headlines this week for two totally different reasons. One dad did something horrific to his kids and got off without impunity, the other did something we all do with our kids and was immediately attacked by social services.

Dad #1:

AJ Demaree dropped off some photos of himself and his daughters for developing at his local WalMart. Something dads do all the time, only for Demaree, that simple act would result in this:

The Peoria, Ariz., couple had their home searched by police and worse, their children — then ages 18 months, 4 and 5 — were taken from them for more than month. Their names were placed on a sex offender registry for a time, and Lisa Demaree was suspended from her school job for a year. The couple said they have spent $75,000 on legal bills.
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You see, the photos were of kids in the bath, and running around in towels, or their dad posing playfully with his daughters. A WalMart employee developing the photos alerted State authorities after determining the pictures were “child erotica” and “sex exploitation.”

“These photos were never intended for anyone to see except for family members,” the couple’s lawyer said. “Perversion is in the eye of the viewer.”

I have very similar photos to these. I have some of my son naked pushing a lawnmower in the backyard, him in the bath. I’ve even got pictures of him and I in the bath together (above). When he was an infant / toddler, we’d have bath time together all the time; either my wife and him or myself him.

Eventually, a judge threw out charges and now the family is suing the state, the city and WalMart for their role in what they call a “nightmare.”

Dad #2:

This past summer was the hottest ever on record in British Columbia, so watering holes did a booming business with clientele needing to cool off. On one hot night a 26 year old man attended an Abbotsford Agrifair Beer Garden for a couple of cold ones.

Not so bad, until you hear the part about him leaving his 4 month old and 2 year old locked in his car with the windows rolled up, while Daddy was getting his drink on.

The kids were discovered just past midnight after another patron approached police saying she had overheard a man telling people he had to check on the children.

There was no air flow in the vehicle, and the temperature was in the mid 20s. The children were found to be dehydrated and soiled after the police estimated them to have been left alone for several hours.

The father was facing charges of abuse, assault and neglecting a child, but none of the charges will be laid.

“Integral to making this determination was the timeline involved, especially with regard to the specific amount of time the children were left alone in the vehicle,” said Const. Ian McDonald in a press release Monday.

McDonald added in his statement Monday: “Although this incident did not ultimately meet the threshold of criminal behaviour, it has resulted in on-going intervention on the part of the Ministry for Children and Family Development.”
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It’s a tale of two dads. One loving his kids and making memories is chastised as a sex offender. Another, who shows no regard for his children’s well-being has only his children taken away from him.

For Demaree, losing his kids for a month was a crushing sentence. For the as yet named Abbotsford father, having his kids taken away from him only frees up his time to hit the bar.

What kind of photos do you have of your kids? When was the last time you took them to the bar? Should criminal charges be laid against Dad #2? Should Dad #1 sue?

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  1. Anonymous November 30, -0001 at 12:00 am

    Great point. Good law, bad execution.

  2. kenny eric friedman September 25, 2009 at 3:59 pm

    I think the story of the couple who went to jail for the pics is really sad. Although I have to back Wal Mart on this. But I think the police were totally wrong in the way they handled it.

    In college I worked at a 1 hour photo place. We had to alert the cops of images that had naked kids, bath or not. Especially if it had an adult.

    Reason being is that if the worker didn't know the couple then he/she had no idea that this is a parent in the shots. And really when it comes to abuse that doesn't matter either.

    That's why we had to alert the cops. All of the times it happened at my store the cops were smart. They knew it was innocent and it never moved forward. It's about being safe. And with smart cops there is no problem.

    However we did have one instance of some guy taking photos of mentally challenged adults. We made the call to the cops. He got arrested because he was doing something wrong. At face value it looked the same as the prints with all the bath kids we saw.

    Also I think there are laws like this in most states, people just don't know their shots are being scrutinized.

  3. DadCAMP September 26, 2009 at 4:07 am

    Great point. Good law, bad execution.

  4. DadCAMP September 25, 2009 at 11:07 pm

    Great point. Good law, bad execution.

  5. Tod M November 30, 2011 at 12:23 pm

    Your photo is absolutely offensive.

    I mean… dude… soul patch?!
    😉

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